Seeking Answers to 10 Big Questions
from The Flora Dora Girls Weekly Sewing Circle by Louis LaRusso II
1. What is on your mind these days?
2. What is worth fighting for?
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
5. How would you like to look?
6. Are men worth it?
7. What are you reading?
8. Who has hurt you?
9. What do you always really, really like?
10. Who do you miss?
63 comments:
1. What is on your mind these days?
The shocking lack of critical thinking that goes into our world views (including my own). Scares he hell out of me.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Our uniqueness. Which means that what's worth fighting against is deadening conformity.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
Among the living, my friends. Among the dead, my teachers, the great thinkers of the world.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
I'm able to forgive practically anything. I just wish I knew when it was necessary.
5. How would you like to look?
Vigorous, healthy and mature. Youth is just window dressing for sexual reproduction.
6. Are men worth it?
Sure. They're expendable risk-takers. As Roy Baumeister argues in "Is There Anything Good About Men?" [http://www.psy.fsu.edu/~baumeistertice/goodaboutmen.htm]
"Men go to extremes more than women, and this fits in well with culture using them to try out lots of different things, rewarding the winners and crushing the losers."
7. What are you reading?
"The Undercover Philosopher: A Guide to Detecting Shams, LIes and Delusions" by Michael Philips
8. Who has hurt you?
Practically everyone. But that's because until I got old I was oversensitive. Now, practically no one, bordering on indifference.
9. What do you always really, really like?
Good deep conversation.
10. Who do you miss?
The family roots I never had.
1. What is on your mind these days?
Denial, how messed up it makes everything.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Love, both to be able to give it and accept it.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
It turns out all relationships are important. This is why we put so much energy into trying to explain how we see ourselves to people that don't care. All interactions reflect back to us something about the world. In some relationships there is a balance of caring and valuing, and some are more lopsided. I am trying to live with that.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
Everyone and everything to avoid being trapped in my own resentment, fear, and anger. But, I find the most difficult is forgiving myself for wasted time and lack of courage.
5. How would you like to look?
Happy, Energetic, Ready
6.Are men worth it?
is there a choice?
7. John Adams by David McCullough, Yvonne Rainer The Mind is a Muscle by Catherine Wood, The New Yorker
8. Who has hurt you?
The only person I allowed to hurt me.
9. What do you always really, really like?
drawing, early morning, seeing something I didn't notice or know
10. Who do you miss?
Enough time to be with everyone. There is too much space in between.
September 17, 2008 6:43 AM
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1. What is on your mind these days?
the election
2. What is worth fighting for?
other people. people accept much less then they deserve. we have to remind each other that we have value
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
my family
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
weakness
5. How would you like to look?
pretty
6. Are men worth it?
sometimes. it's hard to navigate.
7. What are you reading?
The Complete Peanuts 1953-1954 by Charles M. Schulz, Seth, Gary Groth, and Walter Cronkite
8. Who has hurt you?
people who aren't polite.
9. What do you always really, really like?
laughing
10 Who do you miss?
an old friend- it been years since we hung out but my mind drifts there at least once a week.
1. Politics--I wish Americans wouldn't be so short-sited. I worry that Barak Obama will lose because he is African-American and Americans are prejudiced.
2. Our children. Making our country better for children who are born into poverty or other underpriviliged circumstances.
3. My children and my family. Friends who I talk to about nothing and everything.
4. There is little done to me personally that is unforgiveable.
5. Healthy and in good shape. A bit younger than I am--but not because of plastic surgery or makeup
6. Yes, generally. But we really depend on our women friends and family
7. Truman and Persepolis
8. Those closest to me because I can be sensitive--but I get over it.
9. Ice cream, art and books.
10. I miss my daughter who was stillborn at 30 weeks.
1. What is on your mind these days?
How the Republican party has stooped too low.
2. What is worth fighting for?
The reputation of our country
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
Family
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
Middle America
5. How would you like to look?
My age
6. Are men worth it?
Yes
7. What are you reading?
Devil in the White City, by Erik Larson
8. Who has hurt you?
Nobody lately
9. What do you always really, really like?
The way light hits things
10 Who do you miss?
Robin Osterhout, my sister-in-law who lives too far away
1. What is on your mind these days? Saving money.
2. What is worth fighting for? Confidence and kindness.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life? My family.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive? Liars.
5. How would you like to look? Like me.
6. Are men worth it? Only if I retain my independence.
7. What are you reading? Cheaper by the Dozen.
8. Who has hurt you? Patriarchy.
9. What do you always really, really like? Water.
10. Who do you miss? My grandparents.
1. What is on your mind these days?
election, economy, my gas stove, my late dog, my weight
2. What is worth fighting for?
anything that matters
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
family and friends
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
people who act against their best self interest
5. How would you like to look?
intelligent
6. Are men worth it?
depends on performance and durance vs hourly rate
7. What are you reading?
The Black Swan, Here come Everyone, The Eight
8. Who has hurt you?
who does not?
9. What do you always really, really like?
Chocolate
10. Who do you miss?
Dad, GrandMa, Dog, the OCEAN
1. the election
2. our future
3. friendships
4. betrayal
5. like I'm enjoying life
6. not to me, but perhaps that's a matter of preference
7. the news
8. friends are generally the only ones close enough to really inflict deep wounds.
9. feeling like I am actually connecting with someone on a fundamental level
10. my dad
1. imaginary communities, authentic leadership, annual report
2. food for children, violence free lives, freedom of speech
3.empowering and nurturing friends
4. my ex girlfriend's inability to be human
5. rested, happy and healthy
6. absolutely. even when they arent.
7. The Kiss, a memoir. The Economist, a nightmare
8. inhuman ex-girlfriend
9. relaxing sunday mornings in
bed with NYT and cup of coffee
10. my wonder sister who lives in Brazil
1. The terrible state the United States is in.
2. The truth.
3. My lifelong friends and my daughter.
4. Liars and inconsiderate people
5. Always a couple of years younger than I am
6. Most of the time.
7. Lady Chatterly's Lover by D.H. Lawrence
8. Only those who I care about.
9. Laughing and talking
10. My mother and father
1. Finances/Money, all I do is worry
2. If you are talking with WORDS ONLY, peace on earth
3. My son, my mother and my sisters
4. My Ex-husband for his infidelity/leaving me and my parents for their parental mistakes (especially as i am probably making my own)
5. THIN
6. Not always
7. The Woman's Day Magazine about halloween, "The Stock Options Book" for a certification exam and "Keep Going, the Art of Perseverance" by Joseph Marshall the III.
8. Family, that hurts the most and Friends, I think about those more
9. A good conversation
10. My Father. the other "who" that I miss is not an actual person it is a "best friend" a person who i speak with daily (many times more than once) working single mom's lose alot of luxuries who knew this would be one of them
1. What is on your mind these days?
The election; women's leadership
2. What is worth fighting for?
Our right to safety.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
My family and long-term friends.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
Brief lapses in judgment.
5. How would you like to look?
Like myself, with more sleep.
6. Are men worth it?
Some of them are. But you have to be careful.
7. What are you reading?
"Bitch" Magazine.
8. Who has hurt you?
See #3
9. What do you always really, really like?
Hugs
10. Who do you miss?
Friends I've been punking out on for the past few weeks.
what is on my mind, the election, the bailout, rich getting richer, evil doers in america
what is worth fighting for: women's reproductive rights, my family, kids in prison
most important relationships: my family
what would you like to be able to forgive: things that people do that cause me or the people I love psychic pain
how would you like to look: younger!
Are men worth it: absolutely
what are you reading: George R R Martin short stories and "I Am A Strange Loop," by Douglas Hofstadter
Who has hurt me: no one recently
What do you always really, really like: cooking outside
Who do you miss: my children
1. What am i doing with my life? Is this the way it's supposed to be. I may have to move come November 4th.
2. Equality, Peace, the environment
3. my friends and family
4. liars
5. less tired and maybe 20 pounds lighter
6. on occasion
7. "When God was a Woman", Merlin Stone
8. Michael
9. laughing & drinking wine
10. Avo Maria and Avo Olivia, a lot
1. What is on your mind these days?
the biochemical underpinnings of menopause
2. What is worth fighting for?
multi-lingualism in primary school education
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
spouse, children, in-laws, siblings, parents
4. What would you like to be able to forgive? manipulative parents who "do it in the name of love"
5. How would you like to look?
as though I don't need a cane
6. Are men worth it?
only if they provide some splenda, know how to use mass-transit, are flexible about furniture, and carry their load on chores
7. What are you reading?
The Uses of Haiti, Paul Farmer
8. Who has hurt you?
a small minority of my 130 staff, spouse, parents, a minority of my siblings
9. What do you always really, really like? walking beside an elementary school playground.
10 Who do you miss?
The animals at the zoo.
1. What is on your mind these days? Finances
2. What is worth fighting for? My family
3. What are the most important relationships in your life? Mother, Wife, Daughter, Sister
4. What would you like to be able to forgive? Past actions of people
5. How would you like to look? 30 pounds lighter
6. Are men worth it? Most of the time
7. What are you reading? Friday night knitting club
8. Who has hurt you? Family
9. What do you always really, really like? Being with friends
10 Who do you miss? MY daughter and son
1. What is on your mind these days?
How we are affected by fear, and is fear becoming so entrench in our lives that we no longer identify it as fear but more as normal and if that is the case how do we effectively get off of that path. What are the things I need to accomplish today, and what do I want my Christmas card to look like this year.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Human rights
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
With my family
4. What would you like to be able to forgive? Myself more easily because then I think it would also be easier to forgive others.
5. How would you like to look?
Healthy and happy
6. Are men worth it?
Yes, there is a reason that half of the population is men – they are a bit different, even through they are very much the same.
7. What are you reading?
Geography, Philosophy, Mary Gordon, The Art of war for Women, The Golden Compass, Time Management for Unmanageable People, the Man who Saved Geography, and the local papers.
8. Who has hurt you?
More often than not people I know.
9. What do you always really, really like?
Chocolate, vanilla ice cream, a good conversation, Mozart, a hug, and creating.
10 Who do you miss?
My mom
1. What is on your mind these days?
That my personal relationship is going through a tough time, the horrible state of the economy, wanting to really go out and do the kind of art and work I want to do, why Autumn is always a period of melancholy but at the same time growth?
2. What is worth fighting for?
Freedom, Love, Independence, Truth, a Democrat in the White House
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
My Mother, my Father, my best friends, my boyfriend, my teachers & colleagues, co-workers
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
Myself first, my partner second
5. How would you like to look?
Thinner but in shape, sexy but tough
6. Are men worth it?
Yes but only if you know your own worth as a person
7. What are you reading?
The Audacity of Hope by Barack Obama
8. Who has hurt you?
Myself, My brother, my father, my boyfriend
9. What do you always really, really like?
A warm comforting embrace in the morning, a hot cup of tea or an ice cold drink, beautiful clothes, passion, how shiny my hair is
10 Who do you miss?
MYSELF
1. What is on your mind these days? - Pig Roast and job moving into NYC
2. What is worth fighting for? - your children
3. What are the most important relationships in your life? - family
4. What would you like to be able to forgive? - the terrorists
5. How would you like to look? - always happy and a few years younger would make me even happier
6. Are men worth it? - absolutely
7. What are you reading? - East of the Mountains
8. Who has hurt you? - siblings
9. What do you always really, really like? - being at the beach with family and friends
10 Who do you miss? - my children, siblings and friends
1. What is on your mind these days?
money
2. What is worth fighting for?
children
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
my family
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
I can't hold a grudge, so I'm fine
5. How would you like to look?
Like myself but with average breasts
6. Are men worth it?
Men are just people - most are worth our energy, some are not
7. What are you reading?
The Story of Edgar Sawtelle
8. Who has hurt you?
my step daughter
9. What do you always really, really like?
my birthday
10 Who do you miss?
my late, great brother
1. What is on your mind these days? – Normally this answer would be family, but lately I’ve been thinking about love and companionship and wondering how I will find it (again).
2. What is worth fighting for? – Standing up for yourself if someone is trying to belittle you, your experiences, your thoughts, etc.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life? – My siblings, cousins and close friends who I feel know the real me although I think my sister knows the truest me and all my secrets. Something feels “off” if I haven’t spoken to her every few days or so.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive? – My dad for this one specific time that he didn’t come to my rescue.
5. How would you like to look? – Exactly as I do now. I love all the parts of me even my big nose, curly crazy hair and big bootie.
6. Are men worth it? – Most definitely…
7. What are you reading? – Shamefully nothing at the moment.
8. Who has hurt you? – Besides my dad, I can’t really say I’ve been hurt. I’m kind of duck-like and let things wash over me.
9. What do you always really, really like? – Getting 35mm film developed and see evidence that I actually can take a good picture.
10 Who do you miss? РThis is terribly clich̩, but I miss my ex. We had a lot of fun together.
1. What is on your mind these days?
staying calm in chaos
2. What is worth fighting for?
dignity
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
relationship with myself that I need to continously manage and work on so that I'm able to have relationships with others
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
those things that weigh me down
5. How would you like to look?
engaged, energetic and five inches taller
6. Are men worth it?
depends on the day
7. What are you reading?
freakonomics
8. Who has hurt you?
not really a who, but a what that has hurt me - when things I wanted to be were not to be
9. What do you always really, really like?
fridays
10 Who do you miss?
janie who worked on my second job out of college and is still in my mind as the consummate stickler and perfectionist
1. What is on your mind these days?
Health, a vacation, finances with all the upheaval in the market
2. What is worth fighting for?
Without a doubt love, happiness, contentment & health
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
Family
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
Injustice, from those I perceive were unjust to me.
5. How would you like to look?
Thinner
6. Are men worth it?
Yes, its the old "ying yang" two parts of a whole
7. What are you reading?
Believe it or not "Audition" by Barbara Walters
8. Who has hurt you?
The only person who has the true power to hurt me is my partner.
9. What do you always really, really like?
Dogs
10. Who do you miss?
This is hard. I want to say my parents but I think of them often and remember but I'd don't really miss them anymore. And if I want to talk to them I do.
I think what I miss more is simpler times. Less stress & responsibility and the wonder of what will come next.
I'm not going to say any more before I get too philosophical.
1. What is on your mind these days?
Finding the discipline and prioritizing the making of make art -good,
bad or whatever comes out.
2. What is worth fighting for?
life
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
my partner, friends and family
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
i don't believe in forgiveness in the Christian sense.
if i did, i would like to be able to use it to communicate it with those with whom i disagree
5. How would you like to look?
my best
6. Are men worth it?
worth what?
...depends on the man
7. What are you reading?
Ex Machina, The Audacity of Hope (don't like it so far), The Thirteenth Tale (like it so far), The Economist and the New Yorker
8. Who has hurt you?
most of all- myself
9. What do you always really, really like?
bananas
10 Who do you miss?
my grandfather, my fathers' father
1. What is on your mind these days?
Surveys claim. I as a male, think about sex every 7 seconds or every 15 minutes, depending on the survey. So chance are I am thinking, "If they wanted me to fill in this survey, they should have given me a write window for each question. Sex. Plunging Stock Market. Sex. Economic crisis, Sex
2. What is worth fighting for?
Fight with words, with pen, with fists, with club, with knife. with gun. with H. Bomb???????? all very different forms. You would have to define before I could answer
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
Family
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
America, for screwing up the world so badly, the rest of us for allowing it to happen
5. How would you like to look?
Oh! I wish I was thirty again!!!!
6. Are men worth it?
Worth what???? Men are children in adult clothing, we know that? We attempt to think at first with logic, if that does not work we have tantrums
7. What are you reading?
Edward Trencom's Nose by Giles Milton
8. Who has hurt you?
Since I am responsible for all my decisions then that leaves me to blame
9. What do you always really, really like? Sitting outside a cafe drinking Caffe Latte, eating a butter Croissant,watching the world go by and admiring lovely women walking by
10. Who do you miss?
Freinds and family living in other countries
From MaryBeth
1. What is on your mind these days?”
The election and fear of loosing it to “Endless War McCain” if he were given the chance along with “Four More Years” of deadly Bush policies.
2. What is worth fighting for?
In my daily life fighting for what I need to create and also what I need to live in integrity.
A community that is not dominated by commercial interests and actively encourages democratic participation while reaching out to those in need .
Nationally the same.
Internationally- There is no such thing as a good war.
How would it change the world If we spent as much money on multi-lateral diplomacy along with wise- intelligent- aid for education, food, water, resource ,skills and the lot , as we do on war?
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
My family and friends
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
I sort of did that already with an extended art project produced in Europe as well as US in which I invited people to contemplate forgiveness in personal relationships as well as community and global levels (including asking others to forgive you).
This project was presented within a quiet meditative structure that I build which included one of my story gathering box. These boxes invite participants to write on the cards provided about the subject at hand, and in this case it was forgiving. They then leave the cards with their contribution for others to read.
On personal terms the heavy forgiveness that I had to work through was forgiving an ex-husband who kidnapped my daughter when she was nine years old. It was a stone in my heart that I was finally able to grab and throw as far as I could. It is hard work to truly forgive, but such a relief once forgiveness is accomplished.
5. How would you like to look?
I could loose some weight, but for my age I am proud of the way I look at 75. When someone I recently meet found out how old I was he said, “Good job!” . I thought that was a wonderful compliment.
6. Are men worth it?,
Depends on the man ( my son is a positive example) and how old you are. I like not having a man around at my age. You know, they die sooner than we do and you have to take care of them -also the men in my generation-- many of them still don’t “get it.” Besides, I had three plus husbands and that was enough!
7. What are you reading?
I have the habit of reading several books at a time, (often written by people I know), but these days I mostly am reading magazines ( the New Yorker, etc) and three newspapers because the current news about the pending election and the serious economic downturn –is changing daily- and I want to be formulating my views as these changes occur.
8. Who/ what has hurt you?
X-mates
Not raising my daughter
Elitist and sexist in the art world.
9. What do you always really, really like?
The beach on a perfect day- the same for long walks through the neighborhoods of NYC, the woods ( without ticks)
Good times with friends
Laughing
A drink at the end of the day so that I can relax and unwind- at least for a little while
I also love to be in well curated exhibitions that feature my work, give me fresh insights, as well as group exhibitions that do the same
Good contextualized significant reviews of my work
Creating in my studio while being in the middle of developing a new body of work, that I am excited about, is next to paradise.
10 Who do you miss?
Of course, my super mother even if she is always with me.
I also miss dear friends on other continents that I don’t get to see as often
I miss not raising my daughter.
1. What is on your mind these days?
Finding ways to be a better, more productive, focused, kinder person.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Love & compassion for our fellow human beings.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
My mother and friends.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
Procrastination and hateful, mean individuals.
5. How would you like to look?
Healthy & physically fit.
6. Are men worth it?
The right ones are.
7. What are you reading?
A collection of Russian short stories & 'Running With Scissors'.
8. Who has hurt you?
Cousins, father(s), friends, ex-boyfriends.
9. What do you always really, really like?
Being creative & traveling.
10 Who do you miss?
Family members who have passed to the other side. Forgotten friends.
What is on your mind these days? As my mom ages I worry about supporting her without her having to work.
Where does all the merchandise in department stores go after each season in the thousands of department stores all over the world!
How will life on this planet suffer in the decades to come because of generations before them. Sometimes I fear having a baby/children and bringing them into this world because of it.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Those I love, causes I believe in. Living happily is worth fighting for.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
My family. My relationship with myself. My friends who I have adopted as family. My relationship with my pets.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
I'd like to be able to forgive my family who betrayed my mother, brother and me after my father passed away.
I'd like to be able to forgive my 5th grade teacher for telling my friend's parents I was a bad influence--cough cough.
Most of all I'd like to forgive, all the inhumane people in the world who hurt animals, children, and other human beings knowingly knowing so...
I'd like to forgive, all the rich people who don't have anything better to do with their money than spend it on stupid things.
5. How would you like to look?
Permanent California sun shiny radiating glow skin on my face and especially my legs!
6. Are men worth it?
If he makes you happy, yes! If he makes you miserable, no!
7. What are you reading?
At the current moment I am reading "The Five Languages of Love" by Gary Chapman
8. Who has hurt you?
My chiwawa who bit my forehead! AND see answer 4.
9. What do you always really, really like?
definitely mouth watering chocolate, candy apples, cotton candy, funny non stop laughing movies, roller coasters, my cat licking my ear! OH and slip and slide. Having coffee with my BF.
10. Who do you miss?
My father who died before I got to know him. I know I missed knowing a great man. And I always wonder why, and for what purpose did he die so young.
1. what's on my mind most days is the way this god-falutin', mind'grogglin'economy is affecting my joint. Pretty soon I'm going to have to open up a freakin' frankfottinger dog stand.
2. I fight anybody for my friends. Nobody who knows me, Gracie, wouldn't ever dare to detry the loyalty of my inner guts when it comes to my friends.
3. My son, the jadrool, he's my heart, my eyes, and the souls of my feet. He's almost thirty years old and I can't cut the aprong tangles, but what can I say? He came from this belly, so who's gonna throw him out like old used up baton?
4. That's my problem, I forgive too much. I forgave the snake of a rotten good-for-nuttin rat bastard of a husband that I had. Why not? He gave me my gorgeous but often time delinquart in the head son, but hey, he's my two front teeth.
5. I'd love to look like Kim Novak. Once I even died my hair blonde. Everybody thought it was a wig, mainly, only, and definitely because I have excessantly black eyebrows. Everybody kept pullin, and grabbin', and pushin' my head. Soon I couldn't see no mores, so I bought new glasses.
6. Are men worth, hmmm, are men worth it? Madonna, what men? My father? All right, he worked all the time, drank a little, rapped my mother once or thrice, was he worth it? Yeah, he gave me Hershey bars when I wanted 'em. My husband? He was a kid, confused, and convalutingented. Can you blame him? My son? He ain't got much towards lookin' for the tin right, but he picks me up whenever he sees me. Goddammit, men, they're worth it.
7. I just prescribed to the Reader's Digest wherein they make very important books small and on two pages. I'm on page one.
8. I don't look no more on who's hurt me. We live this life filled with the bumps and bruises and black eyes and kicked shins. When you add it all up, you blast your girlfriends on the wire, you make a fresh pot, you eat too much cake, you curse out the world, and you can lay your locks down with no more worries.
9. I really really always and not only forever love watching, "On the Waterfront" with my Marlon. I swear to the Baby Jesus, and I ain't never one to do that, but I've seen it 51 times. Sometimes I even open my eyes to catch every punch they give to my Marlon at the end. I try to memorate the faces to see who they might be potrating in real life, so I can slam 'em when I see 'em.
10. I miss no-one because I don't let no-one leave my life. I hunt them down like sick small animals except I'm the sick small animal. I yalp and scream until they come out and then I say, "Hey you wiseass, where the hell you been? Get outta here." Really, I'm happy to squeeze 'em.
1.The election. I don't speak about it because I'm so terribly concerned about the outcome. I desperately want Obama to win. He's seems to be our only hope.
2. Humanity is worth fighting for, but not with violence, with diplomacy.
3. My relationship with my partner is most important. Also, my relationships with my remaining family and my lifelong friends.
4. Myself for a few personal mistakes.
5. I never counted much on my looks. I'd just like to look the best I can for my age.
6. Oh, that's a sexist question. Of course, there are many men who are worth it; my father, my brother-in-law, my nephew, my close friends, my boss; there are so many wonderful men.
7. I'm reading Amy Tan's second book, "The Kitchen God's Wife" based on her mother's life.
8. Those people who I have allowed to hurt me.
9. I always like warm, open, and witty people. I always like the excitement of a new venture. I always like what the next day brings.
10. I miss my parents. I miss the calm, loving nature of my father and my mother's love of life and people. I miss the safety they provided.
"Josie" a character from the Flora Dora Girls says:
1. What is on your mind these days?
Wondering what to cook everyday.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Me. I gotta fight for me. Mostly though it ends being lots of shadow boxing. Ai't that how it goes.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
Geez. This is where I'm supposed to say my mother. Which is true I guess, but you know what if it weren't for Vic the bus driver I'd never get to work and we're talking everyday for all these years. That's something too eh?
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
A good knock to the face when I had it coming. If I didn't get it when I deserved it, now that, I couldn't forgive.
5. How would you like to look?
Like Bridget Bardo.
6. Are men worth it?
Men, no. But a particular man could be different from men.
7. What are you reading?
The paper.
8. Who has hurt you?
My sister.
9. What do you always really, really like?
Chocolate. For sure.
10. Who do you miss?
My father. Don't tell anybody, but I really do miss that old fart.
vClara said:
1. how to be happy
1. myself
3.my friends who know me well
4. myself
5.trustworthy
6.deninitely not. They lure you in.
7.the news- I need to know truth
8.it't too hard to talk about it
9. beautiful music
10. the person I could have been
1. What is on your mind these days?
I will need to find a new job soon, and of course I am feeling a bit lonely these days.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Holding onto my most precious friendships. Finding my own strength.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
My American friends, especially Mary and Tootsie -- they are more important to me than anything. I've never met a woman as strong as Mary. Because of her, I see who I can count on and where strength comes from.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
I don't know if I hold any condemnation in my heart. For example, with Damie, his anger sometimes simply got the best of him.
5. How would you like to look?
I've always wanted to look more like my American friends, though I'm a bit thin and probably won't be able to do anything about that.
6. Are men worth it?
Of course. As long as they are good men underneath all their sins.
7. What are you reading?
Up the Down Staircase, by Bel Kaufman. It's new.
8. Who has hurt you?
I don't really want to talk about that, but I will say that America will always be my home, and my dear friends here are my true family.
9. What do you always really, really like?
Well, I do tend towards chocolate, especially since my husband died. It is a great comfort, and I've found it far more productive than the sip I take every now and then.
10. Who do you miss?
I miss my Damie.
1. The Election and my filmmaking career.
2. Love (your family etc), freedom of expression, the arts, peace.
3. My partner. My mother. My Sister. My niece.
4. I have forgiven everyone and everything. it is the only way to forgive oneself.
5. I like the way I look. I just wish I didn't have flat feet.
6. Yes.
7. A biography about Queen Jezebel, murder mystery that takes place during the Renaissance and Skinny Legs and All.
8. Friends/Father/Sister
9. Performing. Lovemaking. French Fries.
10. My Nieces
Seeking Answers to 10 Big Questions
from The Flora Dora Girls Weekly Sewing Circle by Louis LaRusso II
1. What is on your mind these days? How to prepare and adjust to the new economy with joy and acceptance!
2. What is worth fighting for? Life!
3. What are the most important relationships in your life? My relationship with myself, even though at times I believe it is with my daughter.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive? EVERYTHING!
5. How would you like to look? I'd like to look like me at the age of 33 years old. I'm 34 now.
6. Are men worth it? Every penny!
7. What are you reading? Serpent of Light
8. Who has hurt you? The belief was that many have hurt me....my thoughts created that illusion.
9. What do you always really, really like? Many Many ! One is a belly laugh that lasts way beyond reason!
10. Who do you miss? My daughter!
1. My upcoming art show, our trip to Europe, and the economy.
2. My family's well being, honor and freedom
3. My family
4. Cosby's sickness.
5. The same forever
6. Of course they are! What a weird question! Is your dad or brother or son worth it???
7. A French textbook
8. Anyone who wanted to, and those who did not mean to.
9. Sushi and skiing
10. My Grandma
Mara said...
1. The indifference to the poverty around us, and the arrogance of Wall St. CEO's.
2. Love is worth fighting for, but you have to know when there is no love or never was love.
3. Important relationships? Those that equally imput their energies, attention and love into the relationship, it cannot be a one way thing. Right now, relationships are so fleeting, I feel lost. All the important ones have passed on. So for the moment, I feel like new things are coming.
4. Forgiving is easy, it's the forgetting that's hard.
5. I like the way I look and it only took 20 years to get there.
6. Men are definitely worth it, but we have to come to the table feeling worthy and not take any shit from any of them. No games.
7. I am reading, The Soloist.
8. On ocassion, strangers tend to hurt me with their flippant remarks. And friends always hurt me with their "truths".
9. I always always like quiet time.
10. I really miss my music mentor. He always encouraged me pursuing my dreams and HELPED me do just that. I REALLY MISS HIM.
1. I am worried about my friend, Kay. Her husband passed away recently, and she is still very sad and cries at every little thing.
2. Your friends. Especially your girl friends. Men come and go, but your close women friends..... they are there forever.
3. Well my husband, Jerry of course. And my friends, but most especially Kay.
4. What I would most like to forgive is my father running out on me and my mom. I was so little I don't even remember the jerk. And come to think of it, my mom doesn't remember him either....
5. I'd like to look the way I did back in my Burlesque days when I was in my prime. I try to keep myself in shape, but you know how it is when you get a little older - I still got the goods, but they aren't exactly sitting where they were back in the day!
6. Well some men are worth it like my Jerry (even though his nose is the biggest in Hoboken), and some men are worth-less if you catch my meaning. And Marlon..... now HE would definitely be worth it!!!
7. Mostly I read a lot of magazines because I like to learn all the facts about celebrities. And I buy those newspapers at the store with the big headlines and pictures - you would be amazed at how many people are abducted by aliens every year! It is good to stay informed.
8. Well my dad because he left me and my mom like I already told you. And I fell in love with some men when I was stripping because they told me they loved me too and I was beautiful. Only it turned out they just wanted to have their own personal strip show, so they didn't stay around and that was hurtful.
9. Well I always like chocolate. In fact I love chocolate. I could eat it all the time but I have to be careful so I keep my figure!
10. I miss my old friend Esther. She died a few years ago. She loved life and loved men - just about every man in Hoboken, if you believed her stories.
1. What is on your mind these days? For the past 2 months the only thing on my mind has been and is the prospect of losing my job. I have a family to help support, a house that needs to be paid. Not having a well-paying job is not an option. The state of the economy and our financial system is not healthy, unemployment is down. ..so I'm a tad stressed.
2. What is worth fighting for? Anything you truly believe in is worth fighting for. Whether it be that relationship you're not sure about, or that cause
you believe in, if your heart takes you there it's worth it.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life? My family and my friends.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive? I don't know how to answer this. I see myself as a forgiving person. ..and at this point in my life have
nothing that would grant forgiving.
5. How would you like to look? I would like to look the way I did before I had my daughter.
6. Are men worth it? I have a crude view of men and whether they are "worth it." I struggle with that everyday, considering I am married to one. But, yes, I believe they are.
7. What are you reading? Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides
8. Who has hurt you? My old roommate and friend.
9. What do you always really, really like? I always really, really like getting together with my friends. I see them so rarely these days.
10. Who do you miss? My old roommate and my parents, who have retired to Portugal.
1. What is on your mind these days?
the election. when will i settle into my life? i need a vacation someplace beautiful and new.
2. What is worth fighting for?
true love. the right for any living being to live a beautiful happy life free from the horrors of our world.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
my family. my significant other. my friends. as well as my appreciation of self.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
forgiveness is a way of life. i believe we all do our best without intent to harm. and those that are "evil" were severely misguided somewhere along the line.
5. How would you like to look?
like me. i want to appear confident and well thought-out.
6. Are men worth it?
absolutely. all are worth it. different perspectives and diverse life experiences are what create empathy and understanding in life.
7. What are you reading?
currently reading Intuitive Living by Alan Seale.
8. Who has hurt you?
those closest to me. that's only natural.
9. What do you always really, really like?
soft kisses. love. romance. travel. the ocean. sunshine.
10. Who do you miss?
friends in faraway places. my grandma jo.
Tillie said...
1. What is on your mind these days?
Nothing I am dead for a long time... and don't think you are so smart that you can imagine where I am..Heaven, Hell, Purgatory, not Limbo since Benedict, Il papa, the pope eliminated it. Imagine? Why are you asking? What nerve? My thoughts are my own.. How dare you ask.. and by the way I know how this election will turn out.. or whether we are going to have another Great Depression like the one in '29 i know ..but won't tell.. that's my business..for me to know and you to find out! Ha!
2. What is worth fighting for?
Famiglia.. Family.. but .. I would never admit it to my sister, Mary or anyone else..Patsie is my niece ..also family.. so if push came to shove I'd defend her.. but i must say, I love her without liking her too much.. she has too many bad things to say.. even more than me.. not that I'm the critical sort. If anyone tried to hurt my Lassie and my cats.. I'd kill them.. I mean it.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
My four sisters but especially Mary... I hate her and love her.. She is the most complicated relationship in my life.. But let's face it " Blood is thicker than water" so.. Mary .... After her,t the Flora Dora Girls. I feel like they are family, Patsie, my nephews, and of course my pets, sometimes I think they come first.. No ...there are no men in my life.. NOOOO... I'm not one of those women that hate men.. just no one ever turned up..
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
That is a truly stupid questions.. Forgiveness??! What do you think I am Mother Theresa ?..A Saint? God forgives, No one needs me to forgive them and I wouldn't if they did. My motto is "Don't hold a grudge. Get Even."
5. How would you like to look?
Why ? Did someone say I didn't look good? God gave me my looks and they are just fine... and if you don't like them .. Don't look.
6. Are men worth it?
Absolutely not. No one is..The only person any one can depend on is themselves..
7. What are you reading?
None of your business.t .. You insist?..Dante.. It's required reading here .. Don't ask !!!.But they tell me I won't be here forever..Better days lie ahead...I'm not saying that it is a punishment but it is hard reading, Of course I can read .We all learned ..even though we did not finish school. Those who didn't learn were taught by my sister, Mary, a really good soul, in the factory. Did you know Dante based his writing on the troubadours of the Sicilian School of poetry? I'm not sure what it's all about..? ?? Poetry and really tough stuff, heaven hell and such.. but I do what I'm told here .. Here unlike in Hoboken.. I do not know everything.. Oh, by the way .. I am also reading Louis La Russo's 11 plays.. Did you know he based one of his characters on me,his old maid aunt. Yeah I'm proud of that and of him. I see him here everyday.. I cook for him.. Lasagna Siciliana, Cauliflower & Bucatini, caponata, and his favorite ricotta cheese cake. I love him even though sometimes he talks dirty.
8. Who has hurt you?
Mary when she wouldn't talk to me because she did not believe that i would never said anything bad about her. .. It was her so called friends, those troublemakers.. but finally she and I made up .. thanks to Gracie... the interfering SOB.. I love her..and I was very careful not to ever say anything that could be misconstructed again. Also all those butanas who tried to cause me trouble throughout my life... and Clara, that buttana... whore... who hurt Mary by taking away her husband Trucky. But I have learned... Nun si po' aviri la carni senz' ossu (Sicilian saying) You have to take the good with the bad)
9. What do you always really, really like?
America, Hoboken, My cats, Lassie, My memories of The Sewing Club,The recipes my mother and grandmother taught me. I cook for and feed the people I love and they enjoy my food and that makes all my hard work worth it.. My jewlery, I left all of it to Mary .. my mother's cameo's, white gold, diamonds.. My furniture, Italian Provincial, the finest imported from Italy..and though I hate to admit it.. I too always had a crush on Marlon Brando.. I hope to meet up with him Here someday.
10. Who do you miss?
Bite my tongue..but I miss all the gavones in Hoboken.. My family and especially the Flora Dora Girls and even those who I know did not like me or liked Mary more than me. I miss my beautiful home filled with my beautiful things, my treasures... I spent a lot of time and money getting them and they are very important to me. It's lonely here without my pets, friends and family.. They buried me with a gold ring and crystal rosary beads but that's it.. so I am always happy when someone dies and visits me and I always ask if they brought anything... jewelry, furniture, furs, food from Hoboken or better imported from Italy. I guess I miss that I never was hugged or kissed much.. and I miss eating Mary's Ravioli...but che sera sera..
1. What is on your mind these days?
The election, procreating and my purpose in the world.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Everything!
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
All of them: family, friends, professional, even anonymous people I run into matter to me...
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
Stupidity
5. How would you like to look?
Exactly the way I look right now!
6. Are men worth it?
Some are....
7. What are you reading?
Almost Moon & The Choice
8. Who has hurt you?
A few individuals who do not deserve identification...
9. What do you always really, really like?
Quiet time!
10. Who do you miss?
Friends I haven't seen in awhile and some relatives who are deceased
1. What is on your mind these days?
How incredibly tremendous Barack Obama's campaign is. Not only because he is black. We see the ANC in South Africa being extremely backwards, skin color has nothing to do with someone's politics, but, his candidacy is forcing America to really assess, in a way they never have before, am I not voting for him because he is black? Would I vote for more war and destruction to defend my own racism? It's amazing, this process that's going on nationally in individuals' minds.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Democracy, your dreams, love, freedom, your life, love, love, love in all it's magical forms.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
I love my friends. Everyone around me has been so supportive of me. My family, has taught me alot in other ways. My allies at work, who make me laugh. My relationship to myself, my relationship to the world around me.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
I want to say I'd like to forgive George Bush, but really, fuck that motherfucker. Everyone else I think I could forgive. But really, fuck him. I couldn't forgive Cheney either. That's where I break out of my Buddhism. I'm learning, be patient.
5. How would you like to look?
Like a fox about to take a bite out your leg. Like a snake about to strike. Like a flower. Like a warrior princess. Like a riot grrrl poet. Like the woman who is going to change your life. Like the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with.
6. Are men worth it?
Apparently all the men who are are either married or gay.
7. What are you reading?
Frank Rich's article in the times today. Fantastic!
8. Who has hurt you? It's always some guy. I feel really good about myself until a guy comes and does some knucklehead shit to knock out my self esteem. Which wouldn't be a problem. It's the frequency with which it occurs despite how hard I try to avoid those types of drama kings. I give up. I am waving a white flag.
9. What do you always really, really like? Laughing. Clever stories. Expression.
Rum, neat. Brunch. Kisses. Attention. Holding hands.
10. Who do you miss?
My soul mate who I am still looking for!
1. What is on your mind these days?
I have a huge move across the country coming up in a month, so my mind has been pretty preoccupied with that.
2. What is worth fighting for? Anything you truly believe in.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
My family and my dear friends.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
I do forgive.
5. How would you like to look?
I am pretty happy with how I look, I would like to lose some weight, and have been working on it - already lost some.
6. Are men worth it?
Some men are. Depends on how much your happiness depends on men.
7. What are you reading?
Right now I'm reading the twilight series. It's quick and fun.
8. Who has hurt you?
The ones I truly love.
9. What do you always really, really like?
Meeting someone who has the same interests that I do, someone that makes me laugh and gets me. Whether same sex or opposite.
10. Who do you miss?
My nephews.
What's on my mind these days? Ech, I dunno. Maybe everything is changing, I mean, that's how it seems, doesn't it? I could be scared, but where would that get me?
The only thing really worth fighting for is your children, if you're lucky enough, and my friends, I mean my real friends.
My friends are more important than any man, we figured that out, right? So, how's your love life?
I can forgive a lot, I mean, I'm not one to hold a grudge, unless you really screw me over, then, watch out.
Maybe I wanna look younger, but you know what? My friends like to make fun of me, but you know they watch the men look at my big, beautiful ass when I'm walking up Washington. And you know what else? Right now, every damn inch of me looks great!
Hm. Are men worth it. I gotta think. Yeah, they are. For a while, anyways. But not mostly.
I don't read so much, except wait, what am I saying? I read the celebrity report, you know, where you find out what the stars do at home and what they name their kids and stuff. Pretty much every week now.
Who has hurt me? What kind of a question is that? I'm not answering that.
What I really, really like is sitting on the docks, right on the river, I don't care if it smells, I been smelling that for years so it kind of smells like home anyways, you know? Sitting on the river with the birds, eating a Hershey bar, looking at New York City, or just letting the wind blow at me. And getting some good dirt, of course, I like that too.
I miss my mother, and my father. I know it's silly for someone my age to say, and they weren't the best people in the world, but I miss them. I guess what I miss is feeling like if I fall, there's really, really gonna be somebody there to catch me, all of me. I know my friends care, they really do, I know that, but...come on, stop with the questions already.
1. I feel like I've shed a whole layer of useless something-or-other over the last two years. Getting how that happened and what it means for my life from now on is a harvest I am reaping every day for some time now. I'm more present, more me, than I've ever been. I'm thinking it might not stop, which is wonderful.
2. Some truths are worth dying for.
3. A couple of people who stand by me, good and hard.
4. There are choices I've made which, on an intellectual level, I forgive, and I know why I forgive myself for them. I'd like to be able to own that forgiveness organically, so i could stand right on top of it.
5. Like who I am.
6. Men are worth plenty, just no more than anyone else.
7. I'm reading a few scripts, short and long; news sources, mainstream and alternative; meaningful/useful correspondence from friends, associates and unmentionable others; job postings; recipes.
8. Oh, too many people to mention. But it's really not important.
9. I really, really like deep humor. I like when people share their courageous thinking, even if they're not sure what it means. I like hearing the truth, said well.
10. I miss feeling loved. But I'm sure it will come again. Amazing.
1. What is on your mind these days?
How many people I fundamentally don't understand (Republicans, Socialites and especially Republican Socialites). I am also obsessed with time and how quickly it moves -- wondering how to get it all done and have time for my husband, my home responsibilities and my personal growth process both physically, emotionally and mentally.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Truth + Justice.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
My mother, my sister and my husband.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
My mistakes.
5. How would you like to look?
I would like for my body to not get in the way of anything. I have such poor self-image (and always have, even when I was younger). I think it is less about how I look and more about just getting to the point where how I look doesn't get in the way of life.
6. Are men worth it? Absolutely.
7. What are you reading? I am not reading anything at the moment -- but I am religiously listening to Radiolab on WNYC - NY Public Radio. http://www.wnyc.org/shows/radiolab/
8. Who has hurt you? There have been plenty of times that someone has hurt me in the past -- but with time and perspective I can barely recall that pain. I think that the only one with the power to truly hurt me is my ego.
9. What do you always really, really like? Being at home with my husband, traveling, coffee, creativity, learning about science and history.
10. Who do you miss? My grandmother. She was a 32 year old in an 80 year old body --- and now that she is gone it is just odd that I have lost her both as a dear friend and an intuitive mentor.
~ space. living space, personal space, space and time for myself. space and time that i dont have to fight for.
health.future.
~ im not into fighting right now, i tend to let things roll off me these days.
~ relationship to myself, discovery through art and interaction with others, loving relationships, understanding what it means to be loved and to love
~ i would like to be able to forgive people that have lied to me, neglected me. i would like t forgive myself for things that i have done in the past and for the big and many mistakes that i have made.
~ confident, mysterious, cool!
~ he is worth it if he matters to you. dont be afraid if he is in fact worth it.
~ bust magazine. the world atlas. my most secret desire. being peace.
~ the people that love me the most have hurt me the most.
~ oranges. swimming. giggling.
~ my inner child. my sis. my old best friend.
1. The obvious: finances.
The less obvious: what's been happening to our personal liberties and will I get burned at a stake before long.
The more obscure: My health, various friends' problems
It all scares the hell out of me.
2. Personal freedoms; the well being of any child; anything that any of us feels is that important; love.
3. Friends, my family of choice. Family, my family of blood.
4. I tend to be forgiving, but my own mistakes would be the hardest.
5. I'd like to drop a few pounds more for health reasons than looks; I finally like the way I look so not much change.
6. Of course they are. They are very helpful regarding things requiring brute strength and mechanical skills (most of the time), they do some dumb stuff that works pretty well that a woman would never do. We need them for reproductin, survival of the species. Mostly I like that they can, if they will, provide an emotional stability or an illusion of one, that helps get us through some bad times.
7. At the moment Laura Lippman's "Hardly Knew Her", a collection of short stories; Patricia Cornwalls "Book of the Dead" on the bus; and just staring "Inner Paths to Outer Space" which explores the potential of hallucingens to assist in communications with other worlds . . . curious.
8. Who hasn't. But I'm a little oversensitive. My parents didn't understand me, my ex-husbands and some lovers used me, occassionally abused me. Mostly my own fault for hanging in too long. So hey, I hurt myself too.
9. Good conversation, really good coffee or chocolate, good sex, a read that leaves me wanting more, anything that makes me relook at my philosophy of life.
10. Way too many people, mostly my Mom, gone for 20 years, I still actually pick up the phone and dial her number sometimes, even though I can't actively remember it. My grandmother Clara, who died when I was 3, but who had so much to tell me about everything. I miss not having had the chance. Al, because I loved him.
1. What is on your mind these days? Health issues, family and economic
2. What is worth fighting for? Family/Health
3. What are the most important relationships in your life? My family
4. What would you like to be able to forgive? The people who purposely hurt me
5. How would you like to look? 25 and gorgeous with a great pair of legs
6. Are men worth it? Some of them, like my husband and son and grandson
7. What are you reading? Pieces of My Heart by Robert Wagner
8. Who has hurt you? Many people
9. What do you always really, really like? Fun and family
10. Who do you miss? My parents
1. What is on your mind these days?
The death of a co-worker- right in front of me- I'm realizing how precious and short life is.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Family, love, personal integrity, injustice.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
My husband, my friends, my brother.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
I wish I could forgive my mother for her sense of rigidity and for the feeling I get that she does not accept me for who I am.
5. How would you like to look?
For the most part I like the way I look except I wish I was more muscular.
6. Are men worth it?
Worth what? Worth my time? Some are. Worth the tears and pain they've cause? They are not. Worth the rejection I've felt? They are not. Worth the power to blow them to hell? Some are.
7. What are you reading?
Alternately "Bust Guide to the New Girl Order" (Marcelle Karp Debbie Stoller) and "The Gathering" by Anne Enright
8. Who has hurt you?
My mother, men of past relationships, strangers, myself.
9. What do you always really, really like?
Dogs & cats, music, spending time laughing with friends, chocolate.
10. Who do you miss?
My dad, I wish he could see my life now, I think he would be proud. I also miss my cat Enzo.
1. What is on your mind these days? God's role in my life.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Jesus. Love. Family.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
Jesus. Son. Husband. Parents. Friends. Many relationships are very important in my life.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive? I have forgiven all the trespasses in my life.
5. How would you like to look? Young. Flawless skin. At least 15 lbs. thinner than I am today.
6. Are men worth it?
Everyon'e worth everything. The hubster and little man are TOTALLY worth it! :)
7. What are you reading? Driven to Distraction and Psalms in the bible.
8. Who has hurt you? Significant people in my life that I have forgiven.
9. What do you always really, really like? Coffee. Ice Cream. Pedicures and massages. Wine. Fotos. Reminiscing. Earrings. Reading.
10. Who do you miss? My grandma who has Alzheimeirs. I miss who she was. I miss her knowing who I am.
"Donna" says:
1. What is on your mind these days?
Well, to be perfectly honest, boys and sex. They make it all hush hush at school, as if by pretending it doesn't exist we won't figure it out, but believe me, plenty of my friends have figured it all out just fine. I don't know...it's kind of hard to think about much else when schools so boring otherwise.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Family. Definitely family! I learned that from my nana.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
Again I have to say family. My nana is the head of our family and she's taught us all from day one that without eachother, we're nothing, and I truly believe in that. It'd be nice to fall in love some day, but i'm 15 so today, my family is number 1.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
One of my supposed best friends from school told a whole bunch of my secrets to people she shouldn't have. She acted like it was no big deal, and seeing how close my nana is with her female friends, I'd love to be able to forgive her, but I can't trust her anymore. It kinda sucks, especially since I see her almost every day, but I'm not sure its worth it.
5. How would you like to look?
Oh my God! If I could look like anyone it would DEFINITELY be Sophia Loren!! I'm sure that's a really common answer, but what Italian teenager DOESN'T want to look like Sophia Loren?? She's beautiful, sexy, elegant, she represents Italy, but is an international superstar all at once! I'd kill to look like her!
6. Are men worth it?
Men? I can't say I've had too much experience with real "men", but I can tell you that boys just cause drama!!
7. What are you reading?
'To Kill a Mockingbird' by Harper Lee. It's supposed to be good...
8. Who has hurt you?
My ex-bestfriend I was telling you about before. I try not to let it show, but I'm definitely hurt. She betrayed me, ya know?
9. What do you always really, really like?
Chocolate milkshakes! Anytime, anywhere!
10. Who do you miss?
My old best friend Theresa. She moved away the summer before high school and I haven't found as good a friend since...
1) Mostly all i can think about is Obama. Obama, Obama, Obama, Obama. Oh, and I want to be a mamma.
2) This country and family values and having a purpose and a reason to wake up everyday.
3) My husband, my mom and my dad and my grandparents, who have been married for 61 years.
4) Probably McCain for picking that nincompoop
5) Pretty much the way I do right now. With only slightly larger breasts.
6) Hell, yeah. The really, really good ones. I'm pretty sure they're hard to find. But I'm lucky cause mine found me.
7) When you are Engulfed in Flames by David Sedaris
8) God, my uncle, a bunch of friends.... a lot of people. But I try not to think about it.
9) Probably Sex. And a really good cup of coffee or tea over sunday brunch with my husband or some great friends. Oh and wine tasting on the central coast.
10) I miss my grandfather, Jack. So many things I wish I could have asked him before he died suddenly.
1. What is on your mind these days?
Sex and love.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Freedom
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
Family
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
Cheater
5. How would you like to look?
Beautiful
6. Are men worth it?
All Yes
7. What are you reading?
Romance Book
8. Who has hurt you?
Plenty
9. What do you always really, really like?
Beautiful things
10. Who do you miss?
Being Loved and Cared for ......
1. What is on your mind these days?
I have a lot of health problems and that is my biggest concern right now. Any decision I make right now is going to be extremely difficult.
2. What is worth fighting for?
Love and friendship.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life?
My husband, family and friends.
4. What would you like to be able to forgive?
A long time ago a great love of mine hurt me in so many unthinkable ways. I say I forgive him but I have never been able to forget and feel that I therefore never did forgive him. he is now a miserable person and realizes his mistakes. I wish I could forgive myself for thinking he deserved it.
5. How would you like to look?
The obvious answer is.. like a super model.. and I'm not afraid to admit it. Realistically I wish I dodn't have health problems because they have created some physical problems for me. I wish to look like I used to.
6. Are men worth it?
Absolutely! I could imagine my life without my husband but I wouldnt want to! He is my biggest supporter and I am also his #1 fan. It goes the same for women too. I think relationships in general are worth it.
7. What are you reading?
In the Woods- Tana French
8. Who has hurt you?
SO many people I can't even count. But I think looking back at it the people I'm not able to forgive are the ones that have truly hurt me.
9. What do you always really, really like?
Puzzles and Games...but not mind games!!
10. Who do you miss?
Family we don't really speak to and my friend Jason who was killed in college. I miss him every day. He is in a Jewish cemetary and I took one of the rocks from off his grave site and keep it in my purse so he is always with me.
1. These days I can't help but think about the condition of the enviornment. I am constantly depressed by the thought that my children will be experiencing even more disturbing climate changes than we ever have; humanity will be brought to a screeching halt by the accelarated ice age.
2. Equlaity, love, the planet, and people's lives are worth fighting for. We need equality among all human beings throughtout the world; we have to be united as human beings to save the world. Love is something that brightens my life, and I will always fight for the ones I love. Saving lives is worth fighting for because every single life, in my eyes, is precious. The planet is worth fighting for because if we don't fight, than there won't be much of it left for our children, grandchildren, etc.
3. The most important relationships in my life are between me and my parents and sisters, me and my friends, and me and my boyfriend.
4. I would like to be able to forgive myself and forgive others who never meant to hurt me, just as I never meant to hurt them.
5. I have always has an obsession about my weight, so yes I would like to be skinnier lol. Other than that I like myself just the way I am, face and all lol.
6. No
7. I am reading The Odyssey.
8. My mom, my ex-friends, my ex-boyfriends, and a few randomn people in my life.
9. I have always really really liked doing productive thing with my life because they make me feel accomplished. I also like (more like love) drawing and painting. Fun with my friends is another.
10. I miss my grandparents deeply (they moved far away). They helped raise me and they are such beautiful people inside and out.
1. What is on your mind these days? I'm blank and dopey--some may compliment me by saying simple and free. I just take life as it comes--but I go for certain things in my midst.
2. What is worth fighting for?Nothing--but I don't want to argue about it.
3. What are the most important relationships in your life? The mom, the guy, and the best friends/cousins, the aunt(s), and the coworkers/"bosses" (in that order).
4. What would you like to be able to forgive? inconsiderate ways, violence, and addiction
5. How would you like to look? like the best me possible
6. Are men worth it?
Worth what? Don't give up your self if that's what you mean--not even your CHILDREN--or GOD are worth THAT.
7. What are you reading? "Band Fags", "Ines del alma mia", coupons, and "Sensual Massage".
8. Who has hurt you? I have hurt myself by believing that others have hurt me. They were just surviving and weren't doing anything beyond responding to their own hurtful beliefs.
9. What do you always really, really like? chocolate--(typical I know)
10. Who do you miss? A few people who live in or near Hudson County-a few people from my hometown near Detroit,and that's about it.
What is on your mind these days? (getting well)
2. What is worth fighting for? (fighting, in the sense of striving for, integrity, love, and respect)
3. What are the most important relationships in your life? (my friends, my remaining family)
4. What would you like to be able to forgive? (being betrayed)
5. How would you like to look? (the same, but a little taller and with excellent skin)
6. Are men worth it? (sometimes)
7. What are you reading? (When Elephants Weep, by Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson)
8. Who has hurt you? (lies)
9. What do you always really, really like? (a good night's sleep, and dark chocolate--not necessarily at the same time)
10. Who do you miss? (being loved-romantically speaking)
1. The West Sussex Sewing Circle.
2. Kindness
3. Family/friends/humankind
4. Torture - or if I was American'
accelerated interrogation techniques'.
5. Thinner/younger (but not that much)
6. So long as they don't always think they are right.
7. William Blake/Rudyard Kipling
8. All in the past and in the closet.
9. Living/Reading
10. My mother
Tell me more about the West Sussex Sewing Circle.
We are sewing circle in England - rather taken with the Flora Dora Girl idea. Is there any way of getting the script.
I'm the oldest - the age of the original Hoboken sewing circle I imagine.
Are any of them still around?
Love your Museum web-site
Joy
Question for KAY
I fear you are very sketchily written and i would like to know more.
For instance.
Are you a G.I. bride?
Gioia
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